Random (but very important) Rules of Life

Elements of Harmony by CottonBoon

Great rules that make your day easier, your life better, and you more fabulous overall.

I like to follow the four agreements first...

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
 Be HONEST. ALWAYS. Your word is super powerful... the words you say really do manifest in your world, because what you speak is your truth. Pay attention to the words you use during the day and see how this correlates with what you see and how you feel as well.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. This rule has been so helpful me to eliminate worry of future regret.

Then I like to follow that with a rule about what you say to anyone. This can be especially useful in dealing with the family during the holidays!

Before opening your mouth to say something... ask yourself...

1. Is it True? (capital T, don't say it if you think there's a chance it's not true...)

2. Is it Kind?

3. Is it Helpful? (or Necessary? I think this was said by Socrates..)

If it doesn't follow these three rules, it might be better to keep your trap shut.

Granted! There's no guaranteeing that others will follow these rules, so in that case, another Rule (LTD) is to Listen politely, say Thank you for your opinion, and then DO whatever the hell you want. That's important to remember. Don't let someone else's demons activate yours. You can sit in your perfect presence and see the other person as they are and say thank you and just be whoever the hell you know you are, without putting up any kind of fight. If you sit in your being and don't retaliate, their demons will fizzle into nothing faster than if you did, and then you can get on with making Merry for the holidays!

Remember, what other people do is THEIR karma, what you do is YOURS. In practicing these "rules", you'll spend so much less time with monkey mind in regaurds to other people, and instead be open and present to what truly IS, which is the brotherhood and warm-snuggly-ness of this happiest season of the year.

When in doubt.... ask yourself... what would a my little pony do?
=P